Wednesday, March 26, 2014

A Family’s Struggle with Hoarding (Chapter 5)

Right after waking up, Mandy walked through her mother’s room and become instantly overcome with disbelief. She was irritated that her mother had most of her boxes in the center of the room, which made it harder to get around her mother and her wheelchair. "Overwhelming chaos!"

Mandy thought as she retreated back to her room. "It is way too early for this"; she began repeating to herself and she held her head in her hands.

Today, Mandy is going to let her mom go through each box, by herself and put away the things she was pulling out. Most of the day, Mandy cleaned up her side of the house and began doing everybody’s laundry. Dolly managed to get through a few of the boxes, but in the meantime she filled her bed with stuff from the boxes. Now, she is cleaning off her bed and shoving stuff back into different boxes, which drives Mandy nuts.

Before Mandy walked in her computer room, she was baffled by what her mother was doing and offered to her put things where they belong.
“Why don’t you just put your stuff where it belongs, instead of putting it back in boxes?” Mandy asked her mother.
“Don’t worry about what I’m doing!” Dolly snapped.
Mandy felt a little angry, but she felt more crushed by her mother’s sharp tongue toward her at that moment. 

She felt like she had been punched in the stomach, yet Mandy couldn’t do anything about the intense feelings that she felt. Additionally, Dolly went back to empting certain boxes; while stuffing other slam full of stuff like knickknacks, mail, magazines, pictures, and clothing. Mandy thought they were making progress in de-cluttering their lives, but everyday it just seems like there’s more clutter.

Kyle is tired of moving Dolly’s boxes of stuff to different rooms and then to different spots all over the house. He is also annoyed when having to clean off her bed every night, whenever she piles it up with heavy things that she cannot move herself. Mandy gets overwhelmed by the constant barrage of boxes, which is stacked up and the small trail to the kitchen. Sometimes, Dolly will fall asleep in her wheelchair right in the middle of the small walkway she has created.

However, Mandy and Kyle knows that Dolly is trying to go through years and years of stuff, which has been piled up in boxes year. So, they are both trying to be patient and help her as much as they can, but Dolly has to be the one to go through her stuff. This way, she won’t think one of them is throwing her stuff away and she will know where she put her things. Mandy feels blessed that her mother has already gotten rid of a lot of boxes, but there are still many more to go.

(2014, Crystal S. Kauffman)

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