Friday, February 27, 2015

Creating a Plan for Aging Loved Ones

My Granny!

Creating a Plan for Aging Loved Ones

Families should be the first choice in caring for an aging loved one, since the loved one will recuperate better in familiar surroundings. The entire family should be given a voice, on whether he or she will become a full-time caregiver. However, a reality is that some families are unable or unfit, so the hospital would be the proper choice in these circumstances. If a family is willing to care for their loved one, the aging member actually benefits for the closeness of the family unit.

Create a Plan

First, the entire family should discuss their aging loved ones health care and make a plan, which can be instituted once it is needed. One family member may become the fulltime caregiver, while other family members come by and help as needed. This will give the fulltime caregiver a break, as well as peace of mind knowing their loved one is safe while they run errands. The entire family will transition into their new roles, by discussing and creating the plan before the emergency.

Thinking about Pets

Most aging loved ones have pets, which cannot be brought to the nursing home with him or her. Instead, he or she can keep the beloved pet at home or even at a relative’s home, instead of having to give away another piece of his or her life. Sometimes, the relative may have a pet that he or she can become attached to as well. Fortunately, pets can help keep him or her from becoming depressed with the new circumstances that they are faced with.

Teenagers and Small Children

Be sure to let teenagers and small children help out in different ways like reading a book to singing with their loved one. In addition, the child can take him or her for a walk or help clean up the room as needed. Children are usually welcomed by the aging loved one, since children make them laugh and given them someone to chat with. Sometimes, they may not be in the mood to deal with a small child, so families should judge her or her mood first.

Choosing a Nursing Home

Not all families can provide around-the-clock care for an aging loved one and this may put the loved ones life at risk. Unfortunately, there are also family members who are unfit to care for an aging loved one. In these situations, the family will need to find a good nursing home that will care for his or her aging loved one in the proper way. They should investigate and ask other patients about the facility or its nurses, as well as visit often to detour any possible abuse.

In conclusion, a family should be given the option of caring for their aging loved one, before a nursing home is consulted. The entire family should develop a plan before their loved one gets ill, in order to take the stress out of this transition and role reversal. Additionally, Pets and children can help an aging loved one, by keeping them from get depressed and by also keeping them moving. However, if a nursing home is chosen, the family should make sure it is an abuse-free facility by investigating it before their loved one moves in.

Previously Published at Yahoo Voices/Associated Content. 
©Crystal S. Kauffman, 2011

Wednesday, February 25, 2015

The 30 Day Challenge to Feeling Beautiful Again

Before my 30 day challenge. I went to the lake with my husband.

Have you been feeling down or depressed when you are alone? Are you having a hard time facing each new day? Well, I am trying a 30 day plan that I thought of recently, during a soul searching day. I am disabled and I am at home every single day…All day long! I used to get up and lounge in comfy clothes like: pajamas sweat pants, socks, sweater, and t-shirts. Well one day, I had a really bad day and I had an epiphany that has changed my whole sense of self-worth. I started asking the hard questions that anyone ask when they are soul searching..  

  • How can I change my inner feelings and thoughts?
  •  How can I make a difference in my life that will start right now?
  • How can I feel beautiful again?
  • Can this new plan work?
  • Can I be consistent with the plan?
  • What should I do?
  • How can I be beautiful with a plus size curvy body?

That day, it was already 2 PM, but I got up and dressed up in a beautiful blue dress a friend gave me as a gift. I went through my makeup and found my favorite colors, in order to make a makeup box I can use. My 30 days of getting dressed up and applying my makeup, at least 30 minutes after I wake up. I think positively about everything lately. I try to keep garbage out of my head and focus on bettering myself. No one can change my life, but me and I choose to celebrate my accomplishments! No negative thoughts and that was a hard on for me, but I overcame it.

I had to forgive and get over my anger, which was making me depressed due to guilt. Now I feel beautiful and I have some weight that I still want to drop. I am hoping to figure out a better way to exercise, where I will not hurt myself. I usually pick a song on my playlist and try to move my entire body doing a certain dance. Nothing hard, but I am doing this at least six times a day at different times of the day. Sometimes, I just exercise sitting down, by squeezing my stomach muscles or using resistance that my brother-in-law taught me years ago.

So, I challenge every house wife to try this 30 day plan! See if it makes you feel better about yourself, like it has for me. Furthermore, your significant other will love the new change as well. They will fall in love with you all over again, because you will have a closer relationship. Having a new positive outlook can help you change friendships and be a better person to be around. You will feel so empowered and feel so beautiful. You can continue getting beautified everyday and renew your mind at the same time. Take the challenge starting tomorrow. Try 30 days of positive beauty! Thanks for reading my tidbits on beautifying yourself each day. 

Me after my 30 day challenge. 

©Crystal S. Kauffman

Tuesday, February 10, 2015

Viola Liuzzo: The Unknown Martyr

If you look in a history book, you will never find the name Viola Liuzzo as a martyr for civil rights. However, in 1965, she became an unknown martyr in the hearts of many civil rights activists. She was shot by self-proclaimed KKK members in Selma, Mississippi, during a civil rights march on March 25, 1965. Now, there a memorial on the spot that she died, yet no one mentions her name in the history books. According to Mr. Simkin (1997), she was 36 year old mother of five kids, who wanted to make a difference in the fight for civil rights.

She was married to a man named Anthony J. Liuzzo, who was very supportive of his wife's ambitions. Viola graduated from "Wayne State University" and was pursuing a career as a "medical lab technician" (Simkin, 1997). After she watched 'Bloody Sunday' unfold on television in Selma, Alabama. She empathized with the pain and torment of those who fought for the right to vote.

So she decided to stand up and become a civil rights activist, who helped out with driving people to the marches. They followed martin Luther king and 25, 000 others in a march from Selma to Montgomery. Once getting involved, she witnessed the brutality of other Americans in the south.

As a white woman, she could have decided that it was too dangerous to go, but she was also a trained nurse who felt she may be able help. Then, on the night of March 25, 1965, she was shot in the head twice by three KKK members from Birmingham. Viola was brutally killed, while driving some of the protesters home. However, according the FBI (2006), a man named Leroy Moton was driving and became an eye witness to her murder. Before long, three men were arrested and charged with violating Viola Liuzzo civil rights. According to the FBI (2006), an undercover agent named Carl Rowe was also riding with the KKK members that night.

These self-proclaimed KKK members were Collie Wilkins", "William Eaton", and "Eugene Thomas" (FBI, 2006). They were found guilty and sentenced to ten years in prison. Fortunately, the undercover FBI agent Carl Rowe was compelled "testified against them" (Simkin. 1997) in court. In an attempt to discredit Viola, some vicious rumors alleged that she had abandoned her children and husband for a black man's affection.

According to Simkin (19970 these damaging rumors, were believed to have been started by the FBI. Sadly, she tried to stand up for the civil rights of others, but was ultimately was denied her own civil rights.

How come Americans are not taught about her courageous decision to stand up, which ultimately cost her own life? Why did the undercover FBI agent choose not to protect her and her companions? What made them spread this vicious rumor about a woman, who chose to stand up for others and their right to be a free American?


Simkin, John (1997) Spartacus Educational: Viola Liuzzo

Retrieved on the World Wide Web on June 13, 2007

Federal Bureau of Investigations (2006) Viola Liuzzo Murder

Retrieved on the World Wide Web on June 13, 2007

Viola Liuzzo Monument

Formally Published on Associated Content/Yahoo Voices. I own all rights to my article.
Copyright 2007, Crystal S. Kauffman